7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

by Education.com
Topics: Teen Years (13-19), High School, Character Development, more...

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For teens, life is not a playground, it's a jungle. And, being the parent of a teenager isn't any walk in the park, either. In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey attempts to provide "a compass to help teens and their parents navigate the problems they encounter daily."

How will they deal with peer pressure? Motivation? Success or lack thereof? The life of a teenager is full of tough issues and life-changing decisions. As a parent, you are responsible to help them learn the principles and ethics that will help them to reach their goals and live a successful life.

While it's all well and good to tell kids how to live their lives, "teens watch what you do more than they listen to what you say," Covey says. So practice what you preach. Your example can be very influential.

Covey himself has done well by following a parent's example. His dad, Stephen Covey, wrote the book The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, which sold over 15 million copies. Sean's a chip off the old block, and no slacker. His own book has rung in a more than respectable 2 million copies sold. Here are his seven habits, and some ideas for helping your teen understand and apply them:

Be Proactive

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Help your teen take control and responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don't blame others for their own actions or feelings.

Begin With the End in Mind

If teens aren't clear about where they want to end up in life, about their values, goals, and what they stand for, they will wander, waste time, and be tossed to and fro by the opinions of others. Help your teen create a personal mission statement which will act as a road map and direct and guide his decision-making process.

Put First Things First

This habit helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. It's living life according to what matters most.

Think Win-Win

Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an atmosphere of win-win in every relationship. This habit encourages the idea that in any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution. Your teen will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them.

Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Because most people don't listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don't feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active listening.

Synergize

Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create something better than either could alone. Through this habit, teens learn it doesn't have to be "your way" or "my way" but rather a better way, a higher way. Synergy allows teens to value differences and better appreciate others.

Sharpen the Saw

Teens should never get too busy living to take time to renew themselves. When a teen "sharpens the saw" she is keeping her personal self sharp so that she can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the four key dimensions of life – body, brain, heart, and soul.

Learning With Your Brain

Learning is a Process of making Pathways in the Brain

From the foregoing description we see that the nervous system is a mechanism for the reception and transmission of incoming messages and their transformation into outgoing messages which produce movement. The brains is the center where such transformation are made, being a sort of central switchboard which permits the sense organs to come into communication with muscles. It is also the instrument by means of which the impression from the various senses can be fused and experience can be unified. The brain serves further as the medium whereby impressions once made can be retained. That is, it is the great organ of memory. Hence it is to this organ we must look for the performance of the activities necessary to learning. Everything that enters it produces some modification within it. Education consist in a process of undergoing a selected group of experiences of such a nature as to leave beneficial result in the brain. By means of the changes made there, the individual is able better to adjust himself to new situations.

When the individual enters the world, he is not prepared to meet many situations; only a few of the neural connections are made, permitting the performance of a meager number of simple acts, such as breathing, crying, digestion. The pathways for complex acts, such as writing and speaking English or French, must be built up within the lifetime of individual. It is the process of building them up that we call eduction. This process is a physical feat involving the production of changes in physical material in the brain.

Learning involves the overcoming of resistance in the nervous system. That is why it is so difficult. In your early schooldays, when you set about laboriously learning the multiplication table, your unwilling protests were wrung because you were being compelled to force the nervous current through new pathways, and to overcome the inertia of physical matter. Today, when you begin a train of reasoning, the task is difficult because you are opening hitherto untraveled pathways. There is a comforting thought, however, which is derived from the factor of mutability, in that with each repetition the task becomes easier, because the path becomes worn and the nervous current seeks it of its own accord; in other words, each act, each thought, tends to become habituals. earning is, then, a process of forming habits; the specific nature of which was described my article at yesterday.